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Impressioniste, I feel your pain! 

Why do our workplaces want us to suffer? 

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“N7, yeah…or you could get my name. Somewhere special.”

Vega was a tease so she never told him that she already had an N7 tattoo. She didn’t tell him because she didn’t want him to know that once she hadn’t been so different from him, not really. She had been head strong and impulsive. She had dashed in, guns blazing, not for glory but because she felt like she was born to do it; like it was the one thing she was good at. She didn’t tell him about the time in Rio when her and some of her old buddies went out, got drunk and got inked. She would save those revelations for another time.

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wadebramwilson:

I don’t hate a lot of kinds of people, and I really prefer not to throw the word “hate” around at all if I can help it.

But one thing that I can’t stand are the kind of people who think it is okay to anonymously abuse someone. By saying this, I do mean to encompass any kind of abuse on Tumblr, because we are all playing under pseudonyms here anyway.

I don’t care if you have differences of opinion. I don’t care if they made a bigoted, rude, discriminatory, judgemental post. 

If they did something that hurt or offended you, either click the unfollow button, or respectfully inform them of their mistake. Maybe they didn’t even know that what they said or did could be taken as offensive? Maybe they are from a different culture or background? Give your fellow human beings the benefit of the doubt. 

Tell them that what they did upset you, or that it has the capacity to hurt other people. Help them fix their mistake. A whole lot of differences in opinion could be solved through early communication. Depending on their response, unfollow them. At least you know you did your best to help them be a better communicator, or a better person.

DO use anonymous to make people feel good about themselves.

To tell a person how much they mean to you and your community.

To start friendships.

To amuse the person who owns the ask box.

DO use anonymous if you want to respectfully disagree and you are worried about hurting your friendship with someone.

DO use anonymous to ask embarrassing questions to be answered at the discretion of the ask box’s owner.

DON’T use anonymous to slander, abuse or hurt.

If someone makes a post about their personal situation, relationship, or opinion, and is respectful about it, you have no right to tell them to get over it, or to stop whining. 

DON’T EVER use anonymous to tell people that they need to kill themself, or go die.

Try to put yourself in that person’s shoes first and then realise that you can’t. Never presume to know what brought a person to heated actions or words. NEVER presume that their world-view and life experiences are the same as yours, because they aren’t.

You have absolutely no idea what life is like for 90%, if not all, of the people that you follow or who follow you on Tumblr. 

If it is not okay to use a pseudonym to tell your personal blog that you are angry or sad or scared, then where is it okay? People use Tumblr for these things because they don’t have anyone in real life to vent to, or they don’t want to burden the people that they love with their problems. Maybe they find blogging cathartic, or maybe they just want to tell a group of friends on Tumblr. 

I am not saying: “if you have a problem with someone, say it to their face.” There is nothing wrong with cowardice. What is wrong is deliberately setting out to hurt another person.

What I am saying is: If you have a problem with someone:
First:Take 10 minutes to defuse. Then think about why you felt the way that you did. Think about why the person may have written what they did. Now think, “do I still feel the need to talk to them about it?”

Then and only then you may write -as respectfully as you can articulate it- and then you may leave it anonymously in their ask box. Or in multiple anonymous asks if you need more words. Or even sign it -because now it is something that you won’t look back on and be ashamed of later. You have made every effort to be considerate. 

Then, if you are still mad, if they are unreasonable or irrational, if they ignore you, or are cruel. Forget them. Unfollow them. You tried your best, and you got your point across and you are leaving the discussion the better person.

Later, if you are still affected, make your own post about the specific thing that angered you, but be respectful about it. Don’t target it at the person who upset you, but at the issue or argument in general. 

If you can’t be bothered with any of this, the easiest thing you can do is click the ‘unfollow’ button. I cannot spell it out any clearer.